The murder of British backpacker Grace Millane provoked outrage and grief amongst the New Zealand public. More than that, it was the catalyst for recognising New Zealand's appalling record of violence against women. While progress is being made at the national level with new family violence legislation and the Government's 'joint venture', which aims to develop a more coordinated response to family violence, it is clear it will take all of us together as individuals and communities to make a difference.
The need for change was highlighted by the news that the police have charged 28 people with the new offence of strangulation a mere 11 days after it came into effect.
Jane Drumm was also interviewed by a number of news organisations following Grace Millane's murder. Her views are based upon more than 20 years working with victims of violence.
On Wednesday evening, thousands of New Zealanders came together across the country in a number of vigils in different cities for Grace Millane. The vigil in Federal Street, downtown Auckland also remembered all of the women killed in New Zealand in 2018. Upwards of 2000 people filled the block of Federal Street from Victoria St to Wellesley St, listening to speeches and joining in songs.
Ali Mau began by reading out the names of 13 women killed in New Zealand in 2018, also mentioning an additional two women whose names couldn’t be read out for legal reasons:
Anastasia Margaret Neve Amber Rose Rush Aroha Iolene Kerehoma Zena Campbell Alicia Crawford Ariana Eva Clara Mahu Nicole Marie Tuxford Yanyan Meng Demetrius Pairama Leigh Kauhoe Wallace Lynace Parakuku Keshni Mala Naicker
Grace Emmie-Rose Millane
Ali directed the audience to seek out a number of Shine staff and volunteers wearing high-visibility vests if they needed help or had questions. These Shine staff and volunteers had a number of conversations with people who approached them for advice or support.
The detective in charge of the Grace Millane murder investigation, Detective Inspector Scott Beard, and Senior Sergeant Vaughan Graham spoke of Grace and her family, and also highlighted that her murder was not an isolated case, as the NZ Police deal with men’s violence against women every day.
Shine in School Educator Shelley Hirst spoke last about New Zealand’s shameful record of violence against women and the urgent need for change. Shelley repeated Shine GM Jane Drumm’s words on Newstalk ZB that it will not be agencies like Shine or the Police that are really going to make these changes. It’s going to be all of us, in our own homes, in our relationships, how we relate to each other and other people when we leave our homes.
The vigil ended with a moving rendition of Amazing Grace sung by Lizzie Marvelly.
"I explain domestic abuse to people as a storm. When you’re out at sea in a storm and you can’t see your hand in front of your face, all you can focus on is surviving the next wave – a wave you may or may not be able to see."
“I’m the safest I’ve ever felt. I’m now sleeping through the night. I walk freely without fear. He knows there’s a whole lot of support for me and he can’t do it anymore.” a Shine client